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Post-Menstrual Syndrome
I just need a person to talk to, a shoulder to lean on and a hand to wipe away my tears when I cry. It’s truly a lot to ask for, isn’t it?
Perhaps it was a mistake to skip to university a year earlier. I miss being in high school and all my friends are still there. Now, I have one close friend in uni, and barely any time for us to chat face-to-face. Over the last semester, I had five classes in a row per day, but with two extra days of break per week. When I stay at home, I still have no friends. One could argue to say that I have my virtual life, with my laptop as my connection to the rest of the world, but I don’t want to be “just another person behind the computer screen” all the time.
From the beginning of 2007 till now, I’ve been out three times with my own friends. (1) Dinner party with workmates; (2) Movies/pool with some friends in April; (3) School ball in May. This is a true case of “deprivation of socialisation”. So I argue with my mum, and she says socialisation is not important for me. How great.
When I lost my ace of hearts, I replaced it with a joker. I wrote “A <3" on it, but I can't rub off that grinning joker face.
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As a law student, let me just say that Law is hard. I don’t think it’s intellectually tough, it’s just an exercise in perserverence and law lecturers are continually trying to come up with new & torturous ways to make you quit and doubt yourself!
You not having done 7th form is not the problem. While I personally really enjoyed my seventh form year and wouldn’t trade it in, I have a friend who skipped it and despite lacking a lot of the maturity that you have, he still managed to get through it fine (better than fine in fact!).
If you want my advice I’d get involved in the Law Students Association or the Debating Society or one of the campus clubs. These clubs hold a LOT of social functions (just check out http://www.debating.co.nz) and most people make a lot of friends there. If you spend all year buried in your law books without any other intellectual/social stimulation, you’ll just give the law lecturers what they want (i.e. you’ll go crazy)!
And since you’re getting involved in extra-curricular activities it’ll be an easy way to get parental approval for your socialising
mm? No it’s nothing to do with law actually… the work load from law isn’t too bad and I personally think I’m handling it fine so far. It’s just… being locked up and isolated by myself in general I guess.
Dun be sad ma~~
I’m always here
Its not much but yea…
a happy cheryl is a pretty cheryl
a pretty cheryl is an irresistible cheryl
an irresistible cheryl will find someone who can give you the last 2 things on your wanted list
Cheer up la~~
Hah? A mistake… I dunno, I’m planning to skip a year before uni too but then, I’d just get a job for a while.
Why don’t just make excuses and go on shopping sprees, or have lunch. That’s what I do, even on exam leaves since it isn’t very time consuming. But reading your entry, I never knew uni was this tough.
I don’t understand why people’s getting the impression that uni is hard from my entry. I’m not implying that it’s hard, I’m just feeling… caged.
Social life not important? Your parents really seem pushy.
The last year of high school is supposed to be one of the best years of your life, and therefore, very few people skip it. I remember that when you first made that decision, you were very eager about it. All I’ll suggest is try to meet new people, and maybe ask your close friend to go shopping or see a movie sometime.
You can’t live life behind a computer screen. No, that’s not right. It only makes you more caged.
What you ask for isn’t a lot. You ask for is what very few can offer you.
Web interaction can never replace real life human interaction. It simply can’t. There’s nothing like conversing with a person sitting in front of you and actually hearing his/her voice and seeing his/her facial reactions. On the web, there’s no telling what “tone of voice” the person is using; it’s all up for interpretation.
Anyway, I’m sorry to hear that your schedule and your friends’ schedules don’t coincide. Perhaps you can hang out over break or during the weekends?
Socialization is important to most humans. All humans have to have some socialization. Science & studies have shown this. So once a month (or more), I would plan a day or a night to go out with your high school friends or any friends and just have fun. I know school is important, but if you push yourself to hard you will just wind up hating it and then you will be burned out and you will not want to do any of it. I am speaking from experience here, Rilla. I am sorry, to tell you this. I wish someone told me this when I was in college and pushing myself crazy. I wound up hating my degree and I have never ever used it not gotten a job in it cause I can’t stand the thought of doing it for a living. I am not meaning anything that costs a lot, just go to your house or one of their houses and crash on the couch and chat or watch tv with them. It is just the fact that you are with others that are your age and are friends. Try and get away from your family for awhile. I love my family but even I have to get away for awhile. I live in the US and my best friend lives in Ireland. Every Sat. we set aside two hours to chat with each other. Neither one of us plan anything else to do, we don’t accept phone calls or anything else. We just chat to each other. If nothing else, do something like that. It is just a thought. I am trying to help, Rilla. I am sorry, if it doesn’t help. I hope you get to feeling better.
Well if you’re not finding it hard maybe you should be studying harder haha!
Again, I suggest extra-curricular activities. They are an easy way to get parental approval for social time. And if you choose the right ones they can actually improve your grades too.
It’s probably easier in many regards for people who live at their universities to make friends because well… we live together. But in many regards we’re just as limited as you are because apart from the people you live with, it’s just as hard for me to branch out and find new friends. That became a definite issue for me earlier this year when some of my suitemates were, well, super-bitchy to me. I suggest joining clubs and/or organizing study groups for your classes. If your university offers them, maybe take a few seminars (small, discussion oriented classes). They usually don’t take a lot of time and it’s much easier to know the other students in the class then, as opposed to in a 300 person class.
I hope your situation improves soon. =)